Imagine, then, my dilemma. In my fairly modest front garden, over there, to the right, by the big old stone wall and the vine, is a pool. That sounds great, doesn’t it? Especially as in the summers here the heat often climbs into the high 30s. Except – like the bamboo – my best Esther Williams impersonation in floral swimming cap and waterproof eye-makeup would be visible to any poor, passing soul. And there is another, more delicate problem. There is no getting around it. Believe me, I’ve tried. I’ve looked at it at every angle. The pool is uterus shaped.
While this may be very convenient for all of my full-moon witchcraft rituals, I generally like a little more privacy for them and besides, the candlewax and woad get everywhere. Also, the pump is broken so it fills with rainwater, when rain there is, which then can’t escape. When we arrived in September, this meant that I was, with no warning or training, the owner of the village’s most prolific mosquito breeding programme, and here we are cursed with tiger mosquitos, which don’t even have the courtesy to make a noise before ravaging your pale, uncovered flesh. The late Rosemary Verey never had to put up with this. The pool will have to go. No one can style out a uterus that takes up a quarter of their garden. That’ll be another 5,000 euros, thank you.
All of this to do before I even get to the fun part, which is the planting. This presents new challenges. In my London garden, I was obsessed with trying to get flowers to flourish in the shade. Here I have the opposite problem, with 300 days of sunshine a year. But suddenly, those delicate blooms I coaxed into life in my city garden are too easy to grow. So easy that they’re on every roundabout in such abundance that I now think they might be vulgar, common even. I’ve been thinking about buying – at further eye-watering cost – a cloud-pruned olive tree as a centrepiece for the middle bed, but now I see our vet’s office has four of them in their car park and I worry they’re the Mediterranean equivalent of private. But into my garden notebook go my dreams: Lavender? mimosa? wisteria? How many citrus? Is Russian saying too much of a roundabout plan? Is it too hot for hydrangeas?
Truthfully, this is all a kind of displacement activity. More than with pictures of my old house, when photographs of our London garden pop up unexpectedly on my phone, something catches in my throat. I can’t bring myself to change the picture of it that’s the banner on my Twitter account, all thymes and rosemary tumbling on to brick paths and arches of pink Constance Spry roses.
We planted that garden from scratch over 20 years ago, and it became the backdrop to some of the happiest moments in our lives. So many Sunday mornings included weeding empty glasses from the flower beds and cigarette butts out of the gravel after another party. And I miss my plants, a lot of them gifts from friends, cuttings and slips from their own gardens. We couldn’t bring any of them with us, as since Brexit you require an expensive license for each one, and I need every 5,000 euros I can lay my hands on at the moment. So we distributed anything in pots around north London, sometimes to the same people who gave them to us. It makes me happy to think of them flourishing in their new homes, with old friends.
Time passes quickly. Last autumn, knowing I wouldn’t be able to plant a proper garden yet, but also that life without flowers is a miserable thing, I threw a hundred or so bulbs into a dozen large pots and placed them like sentries up the steps to the front door. Now the daffodils are a foot high and the tulips poke through the soil like so may little green beaks. I know that as much as I planted them to cheer myself up, as a place marker for future possibilities, a front garden is something you also give to other people. They deserve a lot more than a uterus pool and forest of bamboo. Watch this space (through the railings).
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