Wife, 33, sparks outrage after asking for advice about her 54-year-old husband’s ‘wandering eye’: ‘I feel uncomfortable going out with him’
- A woman has asked what to do about her husband’s constant wandering eye
- She said her husband is always looking at other women – younger and older
- In a post to Facebook she said she feels uncomfortable and can’t relax when out
- The post drew in hundreds of comments from users slamming the man’s actions
- Others said there was no issue with him looking and some suggested therapy
A wife has turned to the internet for advice after constantly spotting her much older husband checking out other women while they are out together.
In an anonymous post to Facebook, the woman said she sees her husband leering at women and sometimes teenagers so much that she ‘can’t relax’ while they are out which has left her feeling ‘not good enough physically’ despite being 22 years his junior.
Her post drew in hundreds of responses varying from people who think she needs to leave her ‘creepy’ husband, to others who recommended couples therapy and some suggesting there is nothing to worry about.
She said her husband is always checking out other women and that his gaze lingers on a specific body part she didn’t want to mention until she ‘can’t ignore it’.
A mum has divided the internet after asking for advice about her husband who leers at women and sometimes teens sso much that she ‘can’t relax’ while they are out which has left her feeling ‘not good enough physically’ despite being 22 years his junior
‘I’m going on 17 years with my hubby. He’s 54, I’m 33 years old. We met when I was 17, we’ve had a healthy good relationship, the only thing causing conflict is his wandering eye,’ she wrote.
‘He doesn’t discriminate with age, she could be 45 or 15, if it looks good he’s going to look.’
The mum said she understands there are many attractive people out there but finds his frequency and lack of subtly ‘disrespectful’.
‘I find it disrespectful, he agrees it is but it’s a habit he keeps going back to,’ she said.
She said her self esteem and mental health have both taken a dive since noticing the issue and that she feels uncomfortable going out with her husband.
‘It has left me feeling not good enough physically,’ she said.
‘He says he doesn’t notice the age, well duh you aren’t looking at their faces. I feel uncomfortable going out with him, always paranoid of when I’ll notice it, how it will make me feel. It’s becoming very detrimental to my mental health.’
The woman said she felt like she couldn’t relax or feel good about herself on a recent holiday with her spouse because she saw him ‘look more than ever’.
‘I have a heavy heart and need reassurance that my feelings are valid,’ she said.
‘Should I throw away 17 years with him because of this? I wish he would only look at pretty faces but its always the body.’
Many responses to the post were from women discouraging the mum to leave her husband and slamming his actions.
She said she understands there are many attractive people out there but finds the frequency and lack of subtly ‘disrespectful’
‘This is really sad to read and I feel for you. The answer to your question for me is to leave as you need to put yourself and mental health first,’ responded one user.
‘It’s inappropriate and immature, I’d be embarrassed to go out with him. He’s choosing to do it, he needs to stop, he obviously doesn’t care how it makes you feel,’ said another.
Some weren’t simply worried about men in a relationship looking at other women but others were concerned about the age of some of the girls the woman’s husband was noticing.
‘My husband looks at pretty women, and I look at good looking men. It doesn’t mean doing something about it. It’s not like cheating, it’s just noticing beauty. We have been together for 22 years. We have complete trust in each other. Without trust there is no relationship,’ one woman said.
‘My hubby was told (by our daughters) forbidden to look at any woman under the eldest’s age. Looking is normal. Lusting after is not. Attractive people are everywhere, appreciation is acceptable. As long as looks are not covered, or sleazy, its natural,’ said a second.
Some users even suggested therapy for the couple.
‘I think he may find it beneficial to address this with a psychologist, further to that, some family therapy regarding the concerns you have raising a teen girl, your own feelings around your self esteem and also the public concerns of others seeing this,’ someone suggested.